Lance was my DJ.

When we first met, he made me countless tapes(!), then we graduated to CD’s and finally to our sonos system. When we discovered sonos, we thought we had died and gone to Heaven. I don’t know what a life without music would be. I listen to music when I’m happy, sad, mellow, mad, and every emotion in between. I know many of you can relate.

We bonded instantly over our love of music. If he was my DJ, I was his muse. He would DJ and I would dance for him and the kids. I could always say “Hey Lance…I’m in this mood, can you put on some music?” He would get it right on the money. His musically tastes were vast…from classical, to punk, to jazz, to hippy, to classic rock, to spiritual, to reggae, to grunge, to country (Johnny Cash country), to world music, to contemporary, to bluegrass to you name it. We related on that level in a big way. While Lance was growing up listening to the Sex Pistols and the Violent Femmes, I was going to my first concert (The Police, Oingo Boingo, Thompson Twins, Madness and The Fixx). We both went to countless Dead Shows. We feel in love to Neil Young and Ben Harper. Lance claimed he had discovered Pearl Jam when they were a little unknown band that came to CU. I thought that was kinda cute and awfully cocky of him ;).

While we were on road trips and if we were listening to the radio, he always tested me to see if I knew the band that was playing. He was always trying to get me but nine out of ten times I would get it right…it never ceased to impress him. I was his match…maybe not quiet as eclectic but somehow I would pull it out of somewhere.

Music to me just defines and intensifies my mood…if i’m elated and listening to a song I love, I feel even more elated. When I’m sad, I blast those sad songs until I can cry no more. I sometimes wonder where my daughter gets her moves and then I realize…duh! Zach thinks I’m weird when I do some goofy dance but claims he loves a weird mom (we’ll see how long that lasts). Bottom line, music is cathartic for me.

Lately I’ve found myself listening to Justin Bieber…embracing Amelie’s music…but have had moments like, “Is this normal? Are other 40 something year olds listening to 18 year olds singing and actually kinda liking it?” There I admitted it!

I’m a little worried Lance is shaking his head wherever he is when he sees me rocking out to JB so this post is actually a request. My DJ is gone but I know I have countless die heart musically friends of all types. Could you post some suggestions of your favorite songs? Happy, sad, danceable…you name it. I need it! I have rhapsody and I can play them instantly.

It will bring lots of joy because I’m a little tired of my music and a little lost without my DJ.

Love and many thanks,
PS: Just in case I’ve worried you all, Amelie and I have bonded over Adele too.



55 thoughts on “Music!

  1. Peacefrog (Doors) has always been one of my favourites to dance to. Old Madonna (Lucky Star of course). ‘I Know What I Am’ by Band of Skulls (sooo much fun to dance to); In For the Kill by La Roux. And of course Sex On Fire by Kings of Leon. Always a fun one!

    A few for slower moods: Breathe by Sia (anything by her really); This is the Thing by Fink (incredibly song); Breathe by Anna Nalick; This Woman’s Work by Maxwell.

    • Halo- Abigail Washburn, All Will Be Well – the Gabe Dixon Band, Night Ride Home-Joni Mitchell, The Panther-Jennifer Warnes,Too Late Love Comes -Jennifer Warnes, Secret o’ Life-James Taylor, Invitation to the Blues-Jennifer Warnes, Tomorrow is a Long Time-Forest Sun, Skylark-Boz Scaggs, Allright For Now-Tom Petty…to name a few

  2. Nancy, i love it!!!
    “Information is not knowledge. Knowledge is not wisdom. Wisdom is not truth. Truth is not beauty. Beauty is not love. Love is not music. Music is the best…”
    Frank Zappa

  3. Hi Nancy, It’s funny you bring this up about Lance. And heart warming. When he used to hang out with me in Stockholm, Sweden, almost fifteen years ago, it was the same story. He was the DJ. Lance had a treasure in him for picking up great music, whatever genre or style. Always open and listening.

    I don’t know if he would like this one. Maybe too mellow for him.

    Take care

  4. Nance-I LOVE this topic. I do you want you to know that I was ROCKIN to JB last night with Annabel. We cranked some Boyfriend and some other tune that I’ll admit weren’t all that bad-there, I said it. (Suz, who got Annabel 3rd row seats to JB last year at a fundraiser, cried after seeing his movie-I haven’t checked it out but there seem to be worse influences out there than JB)

    As for music to check out-here’s what’s in heavy rotation in my Rhapsody playlist-I’d describe each, and the moods you might want to enjoy them in, but you really just need to check it out for yourself. You probably know all of these anyway-
    The Cave Singers, The Tallest Man on Earth, Wilco, Ryan Adams, Whiskeytown, Uncle Tupelo, Fleet Foxes (play Mykinos first), Black Keys (El Camino, despite constant airplay, is brilliant), Broken Bells, Danger Mouse (Rome), Jesse Sykes & the Sweet Hereafter, New Mastersounds, Joseph Arthur, The Shins, Lambchop (Live at Verve-start w Up w People), World Party, Neko Case, Ray Lamontagne, The Budos Band, Decemberists, Jayhawks, Wooden Sky.

    Happy listening! Or sad- whatver mood you’re in is good for music. Can’t wait to see you in October. Love always, Ted

  5. hey nance – i kinda feel the same way sometimes…and feel like i used to be so on top of all music. alas – now when i’m lost i take a peek at – or – some think they are snobby, but i like that you can sample (and download some) a HUGE variety of genres and a lot of music you might not know. although last december i got a shutter when they made a list of personas of people who buy certain music – i apparently have beige wallpaper because i like bon iver. well, i don’t but have learned to live with the stereotype! check it out – if nothing else it will intro you to something new! but in the end – if you still have feelings for JB, i will still love you, just maybe with earplugs in! dance on sweet dear!

  6. Nancy: Song to the Siren (Tim Buckley song) sung by Elisabeth Fraiser of Cocteau Twins fame. It might just be the most pretty and most sad song of all time–one you can crank up and cry to…it’s been a joy to read yours and Lance’s posts here…miss that goofy smiling guy–Sorry I missed the service but my own buddhist conversion took place in the Shambala ctr when one of my high school friends died and his service was held there, so I knew you guys were where you were supposed to be…See you in October. (I was a Delta Sig friend)

    On the floating, shapeless oceans
    I did all my best to smile
    til your singing eyes and fingers
    drew me loving into your eyes.

    And you sang “Sail to me, sail to me;
    Let me enfold you.”

    Here I am, here I am waiting to hold you.
    Did I dream you dreamed about me?
    Were you here when I was full sail?

    Now my foolish boat is leaning, broken love lost on your rocks.
    For you sang, “Touch me not, touch me not, come back tomorrow.”
    Oh my heart, oh my heart shies from the sorrow.
    I’m as puzzled as a newborn child.
    I’m as riddled as the tide.
    Should I stand amid the breakers?
    Or shall I lie with death my bride?

    Hear me sing: “Swim to me, swim to me, let me enfold you.”
    “Here I am. Here I am, waiting to hold you.”

  7. Like you, I too proudly dance to Justin B. My girls have pulled me to Katy Perry lately- have you headed down that road? Lots of fun up-beat songs, and her top hit “Wide Awake” is great too. Yes, I have succumbed to my children’s music (95.7 “the Party” is actually a preset station on my car radio…eeeks). Luckily, my son Max likes the Beatles…

  8. Glad Im not the only one grooving to my kids tunes.. I must admit, Im a Hannah Montanna fan too. as long as you are still dancing and channelling your emotions, music is a blessing.

    try some alpha blondy for some deep roots melodies..
    MEL P

  9. Rocket Man by Elton John
    Hold On by Alabama Shakes

    I’ve been waiting for a time when it would be appropriate to email you personally but I wanted you to have the time that you needed before a stranger contacted you. Plus, after all these weeks, I just couldn’t get the words right. Anyway, I worked with Lance at IZZE and would see him periodically in Seattle when he was here with Justin. The songs I listed for are one for each you and Lance. Rocket Man for him and Hold On for you. My plan is to come to the memorial in October and look forward to meeting you. Words still escape me but please know that you and your family have been in my thoughts daily.

    Erin Kliphardt

  10. We are all about dirty rap songs in this house. Eminem, Usher, Pitbull, Kanye, LMFAO. It started with a Black Eyed Peas concert when Lyle was 10. That pushed her right past JB :). Although we enjoy a lot of silly pop, too.

    In a more mellow mode, I like Feist and Let’s Go Sailing, and whatever comes up when I plug those guys into Pandora.

  11. No Mel and Nancy, neither of you should feel out of the ordinary. Right now, the music on my iPhone includes Lady Gaga, Katy Perry, Owl City and Brittney Spears (all of whom were introduced to me by my daughters). Of course, it also includes the Samples, The Cure, the Dead, Stevie Wonder and Macy Gray (one of my favorites for almost any mood). See you in October –

  12. Nan, For a happy dancing song one of my favorites is……. Thomas Mapfumo’s Moyo Wangu (1994) YouTube. Love, Cindy Cunningham

  13. Wish I could help you my friend! I am so tired of my music but I will read the responses to your blog and once again learn something from you and your friends. 🙂

  14. oh! another good Pandora station is when you put the Cranberries in there – remember them? Is Rhapsody the same as Pandora? I should know that already, huh?

  15. ok, last post. My go to, crank it up in the car and sing like I mean it song is Janis Joplin – Me and Bobby McGee. I think I might go for a drive right now…

  16. Music is such a drug, such the healer, such the friend. I sometimes wish that life would just have a soundtrack so wherever I went, the right music would just play… and I remember lance’s music tests on car rides!! My three-year-old son, milo, currently likes ACDC … we like to rock out to them in the car together and thankfully he doesn’t mind my singing. Aggressive but cathartic! Peaceful, Easy Feeling by the Eagles is a nice one to sing along to too. Stay by Gavin Degraw is so soulful it deserves to be turned up. Alright by John Legend is pretty sexy. Anything by Adele just makes me cry. Justin Timberlake did an amazing version of Hallelujah on the CD for Haiti. I always have time for Journey, especially Lights. I could go on, but I will give my music collection a look and see if I can find anything else that jumps out at me!

  17. “Sweet Heart Sweet Light” by Spiritualized is my fave CD of 2012. Trippy eclectic! Rock on, Nancy! 🙂 xoxoxo cousin Sharon

  18. Absolutely anything and everything Muse. Never thought a band could rival how the Dead makes me feel, but they do. Especially Bliss, turned up incredibly loud. My kids love them (probably because I do, but honestly I haven’t been able to get them to like the Dead!!!!), and have all kinds of cute names for the songs…”The Elephant Song” for Uprising, “The Hard Rock Song” for MK Ultra, and they always tell me to turn it up louder, louder!!! Muse can sound like Rufus Wainright one minute, Jeff Buckley the next, and out of nowhere like orchestral rock ala very old Genesis. They seriously rock my world. Radiohead is a close second for Dead rival in my world. Hail to the Thief is by far my favorite album. I realize both groups are probably already on your radar given your vast taste and music collection, but worth a mention just in case they’re not top of mind right now 🙂

  19. Thanks for this post as now I have some new music to try and pop music is the best to get your sillies out. I didn’t see Michael Franti listed. For some good chanting like music I like Deva Premal.

  20. Old School: Graham Parker, Marshall Crenshaw, Dan Bern, Velocity Girl, Mazzy Star, Matthew Sweet, the Smithereens

    New School: Family of the Year, Silversun Pickups, honeyhoney, JJAMZ, Dry the River, Frightened Rabbit, Brandi Carlisle, Aimee Mann, Flogging Molly

    Bluegrass: Loafer’s Glory, Lonesome Otis, Lonesome River Band, Michael Cleveland and Flamekeeper

    Southern Blues/Folk: Lucinda Williams, The Holmes Brothers

    Enjoy … 🙂

  21. P.S. I still have my Ben Harper “Fight for your Mind” t-shirt by the way! Also, a funny Dead Kennedys story… Last fall I spent five days in Munich, Germany attending Oktoberfest. I made a new best friend (as I tend to do)–a cab driver named Peter who drove us around all five days. The first night he popped in a DK’s cd and we rolled down the cab windows in the middle of the night, driving all over Munich, and sang along at the top of our lungs! After that night he introduced me to everyone as his “American sister”. Music has a supernatural ability to bring people together and I’m soooo grateful for that.

  22. Nancy, your post made me think of when Lance was getting all the CDs done for your wedding in his office at Icon. He showed me what he had printed on them and smiled and said ‘Nancy doesn’t know!’. It was such a cute picture of you as a little girl. 🙂
    I like finding new music through Pandora channels but I’m looking forward to getting some new music tips from the others here on the blog!

  23. Do your thang, Nance!

    I’m happy to hear that you’re not the only one who dances with their kids and enjoying their music. When you get a chance, rent the Justin Bieber movie and watch it with your kids, it’s awesome.

    Music recommendations: At home we like to groove to stuff with some beat and little funk – Black Eyed Peas, Eminem, LMFAO, and Rhiana. We also mix in a little Taylor Swift and Adele for the girls. Lately I’ve been drawn back to the classics from the likes of Earth Wind and Fire, Prince, and other funk music. I still love the Rock classics too; Pink Floyd, ACDC, Aerosmith, (Sweet Emotions – my all time favorite). Lastly, my qbrother and I used to rock out to Johnny Cash when we were little.had all of JC’s greatest hits!

    Rock the house Nance!


  24. Hi Nancy
    Love hearing about Lance the DJ and your new found admiration for Justine Biber
    I make playlist all the time
    And I have several I want to send you !!
    I will send them to you!
    Via a flash drive in the US Mail
    Oxxx !

  25. Hey Gert,
    Hmm, you have got me thinking. I just know you’d love any of these:
    I can’t stop listening to Ali Farka Toure & Toumani Diabate – so beautiful! Suits any mood but especially summer nights
    For deep solace: Lorraine Hunt Lieberson singing Bach: the music writer Alex Ross said this music has the power to stop wars:
    Happiest song in the world: Shuggie Otis Strawberry Letter 23 – this will get ANYONE up dancing:
    And finally, here’s my sister singing one of her beautiful songs:

    OK – gotta get back to work, but to be continued!
    all love,
    Jen (Gert)xx

  26. So hard to narrow it down, but maybe by mood?
    Any mood: Avett Brothers live album, Buena Vista Social Club, Thicker than Water soundtrack, Wilco.
    Mellow mood: Sufjan Stevens (Seven Swans or Come on Feel the Illinoise)
    Angry: Mumford and Sons.
    Bluegrass-ish: Foggy Gulch
    Peppy mood/Country-ish: Yarn
    I don’t want you to be without your DJ. But he will always be in the music.
    I think about you and your family every day. Sending so much love.

  27. I absolutely love teenybopper music. They get the mood right when I want to feel young and careless. Husband won’t stand for it, but who cares? Keep listening. And Rihanna just rocks. Love you!

  28. hi nance!!! My heart and thoughts are with you. some of my faves right now are…. Megafaun ‘The Fade’, The Blow – ‘Things to Do in My Room’ and ‘Paper Television Album’, Yacht ‘I Beleive in You’, First Aid Kit, Vampire Weekend, LCD Soundsystem
    LOVE LOVE LOVE, Meghan.

  29. mamacita… you are not alone…! I listened to and sang along with Sophia and our fave JB songs for at least a year! There’s some catchy shit there, but these days we’ve moved on. Sophia expands my musical landscape into territory known and unknown, from Queen to Foster The People & Fort Minor… and I introduce her to old-school artists like Van Morrison (give me anything from Moondance or Astral Weeks!), The Who, The Beach Boys, George Jones. I’ll think send thoughts for individual songs when I get back from vacation – on my way today! xox (P.S. you guys are in my thoughts & prayers every single day!)

  30. Hey Nance,

    I’ll make you some mix tapes any time 🙂 Just to come out of the closet as a fellow JB fan, I’ll tell you my favorite song – play at FULL volume and make sure to shake it!
    “U Smile”

  31. Back in the early 80’s I was fortunate enough to be making mixed tapes with Lance!! We mowed lawns, split wood and saved our money to outfit our bedrooms with the very best stereo equipment (in our minds) money could buy. We both bought water beds, black & strobe lights, collected Punk Posters from Ann Arbor and feathered our nests for music. DK, Black Flag, GoGo’s, B52’s, Talking Heads, Effigies to Doors, Pink Floyd…We would lay around listening to music, making tapes, looking at album / tape covers. It was the bomb! I’ll never forget when the CD came out, Lance and I marveled at that silver disc as if it was from outer space. It makes smile ear to ear thinking about those times…:)
    I still listen to the old stuff as it makes me warm and allows me innocently soak in the old times…Lately, I’m fascinated with The Decemberist, The National (great live), Bossanova, Gotye and taking time to to delve deeper into Otis Redding and his life.
    That was fun!
    Steve Nigg

  32. Nancy,

    Thank you for sharing yet another revealing aspect of the Amazing Lance Gentry. I like to think of him as my personal lodestar. What an exemplary life he lead!

    Music is a language we can all understand. The moods it conveys are, for the most part, universal, so I’m glad you’ve opened this to our suggestions.

    Lucinda Williams: “I Envy the Wind” is achingly beautiful. I don’t know of any other singer who has such pathos incised into their vocal chords. You know she’s seen some pain in her life. Her “Side of the Road” is entirely opposite in mood. It’s definitely happy-making. Almost jaunty.

    Rarely can I recommend any artist whose music I unequivocally love across their entire oeuvre, or even every song on an album, but if you like Leonard Cohen (and who doesn’t?) then I can emphatically recommend “I’m Your Man”. It’s the soundtrack to a 2005 tribute concert at the Sydney Opera House. The DVD is excellent! and features a few tracks that the album misses. “I’m Your Man” features rare footage of Mr Cohen talking about his life in Montreal and introduced me to Martha and Rufus Wainwright, Beth Orton and Antony. I guarantee it will stimulate every emotional zone, from melancholic to euphoric.

    And, since I mentioned a DVD, might I also recommend Lars von Trier’s 1996 soulful meditation on love and loss “Breaking the Waves”? It’s got a great soundtrack, too.

    Thanks for opening this up. I’ll check back periodically and expand my musical horizons.

    A Thousand Open Lotuses,

  33. I made a couple of CDs called Songs I Can’t Stop Listening To. Here’s what I remember I put on those:

    Indiana – The Samples
    Way Over Yonder in the minor Key – Wilco with Billy Bragg
    Lighthouse – The Waifs
    When I Die – The Waifs
    Flesh and Blood – The Waifs
    Miss Ohio – GIllian Welch
    Sinner – Neil FInn
    All The Trees of The Field Will Clap Their Hands – Sufjan Stevens
    The Boy Who Woudn’t How Corn – Alison Krauss
    Cotton – The Mountain Goats
    Daughter – Louden Wainwright III
    Grey in LA – Louden Wainwright III
    Jolene – Cake
    New Slang – The Shins
    Still – Foo Fighters
    Still Be Around – Uncle Tupelo
    Strangers – The Kinks
    Thanksgiving – Poi Dog Pondering
    Wonderwall – Ryan Adams
    Tempted – The Squeeze

    The albums Emotionalism and I And Love And You by The Avett Brothers.

  34. Hi Nancy!

    I LOVE music and can give you songs any time. I figured I add some to your huge list to spread out the topic a little longer 🙂 BTW, I get the new country from Katie and Emily (7th graders). Jess is in to the new country too. Here are a few ideas you might not have yet.

    Always makes me cry: “Fix You” by Coldplay (my celebrity crush 😉
    Fun re-do for Salsa dancing in the kitchen: “Clocks” by Buena Vista Social Club (also Coldplay, what did you expect?!)
    New Country/sad/fun to sing really loud: “If I Die Young” by the Band Perry
    New Country/kick ass: “Last Name” by Carrie Underwood, “Only Prettier” by Miranda Lambert
    New Country/road trip: “Angel Eyes” by Love and Theft
    Lounge Vibe: “If I Had You” by Diana Krall, “Don’t Know Why” by Norah Jones
    Top 40 Hit to get you singing: “Want you Back” by Cheryl Lloyd
    Dance Music: Anything by the Black Eyed Peas, “Mas Que Nada” is awesome! “Party Animal” by Akon. “We No Speak Americano” by Yolanda Be Cool & DCUP, “World Hold On” by Bob Sinclair
    Great build: “The Rising” by Bruce Springsteen
    Running: “Lets Get Re-Started” by Black Eyed Peas, “Timebomb” by Beck, “Say Goodbye To Love” by Kenna, “For the Girl” by The Fratellis, “The Shock Of The Lightening” by Oasis, “Dirty Little Secrets” by All American Rejects

    I have over 2,000 songs, so anytime you need an idea for a specific mood/activity, let me know…I’ve got you covered!

    Lots of love to you!

  35. Nancy, I’ve been listening to Beach House and Ellie Goulding. I seed Pandora with both and get some great music. Anything by Ellie Goulding is great. Her voice is like none other. You are a goddess, BTW!

  36. We constantly have music in the house and so here are a “few” 🙂

    CCR- Keep on Chooglin’
    Born on the Bayou
    Chris O’Brien- Ocean Stone
    Bruce Cockburn- All the Diamonds
    One Day I Walk
    Hills of the Morning
    Hallelujah- Great Cover
    Keith Richards sings You Got The Silver
    Richie Havens- Here Comes the Sun (Cover)
    Pearl Jam- Just Breathe
    The End
    Unthought Known
    Eddie Vedder- Rise
    Nick Drake- Place To Be
    Paul Kelly- Dumb Things
    Obadiah Parker- Hey Ya (Cover)
    Monsters of Folk- Ahead of the Curve
    Map of the World
    Sandman, the Brakeman and Me
    Matt Nathanson- Come on Get Higher
    Matt Anderson- Bold and Beaten
    Matt Kearney- All I Need
    Breathe in Breathe Out
    Sooner or Later
    Ray Lamontagne- You Are The Best Thing
    Let It Be Me
    I Still care For You
    Henry Nearly Killed me
    Devils in the Jukebox
    You Can Bring Me Flowers
    Hold You in my Arms

  37. and a few more
    Griffin House- Just a Dream
    Matt Anderson- Cover of Ain’t No Sunshine
    Matt Anderson- When My Angel Gets the Blues
    Matt Anderson- Hold Me with both Hands
    Lifehouse- Broken
    Billy Bragg & Wilco- Way Over Yonder
    Tommy Tutone- Jenny (867-5309)
    Texas- Prayer for You
    Sweet- Fox on the Run
    The Sundays- Here’s Where the story ends
    Stephen Stills- Blues Man
    Black Queen
    Ron Sexsmith- Cover of Leonard Cohen’s That’s No Way to Say Goodbye
    Maybe This Christmas
    Bad Company- Seagull
    Do Right By Your Woman
    The Barr Brothers- Beggar in the Morning
    Lord, I Just Can’t Keep from Crying
    Old Mythologies
    The Low Anthem- To the Ghosts who write History Books
    This God Damn House
    Charlie Darwin
    Love and Alter
    Sally, where’d you get your liquor from
    Little Village- Big Love
    Lighthouse Family- High
    The Killers- All These Things That I’ve Done
    Iron&Wine- He Lays In the Reins
    House of Pain- Jump Around
    Gram Parsons- Love Hurts
    Glen Campbell- Wichita Lineman
    The Fray- Ungodly Hour
    Dire Straits- Why Worry
    David Gray- Holding On

  38. Nance – it was great to see you guys last weekend. I think of Lance a lot – I am right now 🙂 One song I like to listen to when I reflect on him is Brett Dennen’s song “When I Go” – you have continued to “sing his song” loud and proud and although he has marched from this world, he is definitely watching over you, Zach and Amelie (I know you think I don’t believe in that kind of thing but a part of me definitely does.)
    Since the topic is music, one of my most vivid memories of Lance was at our house when I was playing The Last Waltz at a party and Neil Young’s Helpless came on. Lance looked up at me and said “goosebumps” . I actually had goosebumps at the time and realized we shared a love of a lot of the same music. I gave him a copy of the DVD a while back, if you get a chance, check out Neil’s performance. Chris

  39. M.I.A. is always fun! My favorite tracks of hers are ‘Jimmy’ and ‘Come Around’. Also really into Santigold! That picture of Lance and Johnny is kick ass!

  40. We start the day with Here Comes the Sun/Beatles because it makes me happy. I love Sharon Gannon’s new CD, Sharanam…the first song is my favorite. Rock on!

  41. I love your blog, and this post. I am looking forward to read it, and apply some of the tips you are promoting.You and your story are very inspirational. I found your blog by goggling for lemon+aloe vera morning juice : ). I am from Serbia, currently studying in TN,USA.

    My song- Florence and Machine-Shake it out.

    I hope you and your children are doing great.


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