My year ended the way it started, in the hospital, and I was reminded how everything can change in an instant. Not that I needed reminding but I thought I would share in case anyone else needs reminding.
Yesterday at 7AM I was planning on taking my parents to the train station for their ritualistic train ride back to California. The next thing I knew (literally 15 minutes later) I was in their hotel room with an ambulance crew and my Dad who had fallen was being carried out because he had broken his femur. Boo-hoo! I didn’t like it one bit! It’s no fun seeing anyone in pain but seeing your Dad in pain (especially for a Daddy’s girl like me) was especially upsetting. He was a champ though and somehow making us laugh even through his pain and it occurred to me he was acting very Buddha like. So after a 2 1/2 hour surgery and an entire day in the hospital, I reflected, “well that’s not exactly how I thought I was going to spend my day.”
Life changing on a dime isn’t always necessarily negative either and sometimes (often) it’s wonderful exciting new things.
But either way, it can change and change quickly. So my reminder is and I know you have all heard this a million times but how many of us practice it on a daily basis? I hope this doesn’t sound preachy (that is the least of my intentions)…it’s just what I remind myself.
- don’t take things/people in your life for granted (even the very subtle things or people), count your blessings, show your appreciation for your loved ones, reach out to your friends and let them know what their friendship means to you, be present and spend quality time with your kids…AND….
- if you are in a difficult situation, remember everything is impermanent and things are constantly changing, often for the better. I say this with a few people in mind, who I know have been suffering (actually quite a few) and I know in my heart with time and effort things will change for them too. I speak from experience.